I appreciate that. I have a partner who is on the spectrum and has ADHD as well.
I was only joking in the pedantic style often associated (rightly or wrongly) with autistic traits. ASD is the official DSM-5 term. Of course being a diagnostic manual, that focuses only on behavioral deficits. As I understand, the DSM gets plenty of criticism because like you mention, it omits all the interesting ways folks cope or even creatively use abilities like hyperfocus for positive outcomes. But on the other hand, I’m not sure successful behavior requires any psychological treatment, so that may be unnecessary to include in the first place.
Anyway, I think this is one of many situations where simple terminology doesn’t capture the full nuance of reality. So apologies if that came across as crude.
I expected the punchline to be “for me to poop on”.