Standing up for another’s lived experience is what an ally does. When a queer friend shares their experiences with me, I listen. I don’t dismiss them as paranoid. Whether or not I get Internet points for it doesn’t matter. All the more reason to hear them out, actually, because queer people are not the majority and their perspectives are easy to ignore if what you care about is which side the bigger number is on.

Getting tired of engaging with this. The point is at least two people who saw the meme interpreted it as harmful representation and felt strongly enough about it to respond. You don’t have to agree or even take action. Nobody requested the post be deleted or censored.

You could acknowledge the perspective of someone with a different lived experience, consider it or don’t, and move on. Or you could do what you’ve chosen to do and deny that perspective and try to shut it up.

Damn. I guess you’re right.

Except the meme we’re talking about is depicting a literal butt fucking, so I don’t know what you’re arguing. Clearly any of the alternate meanings of “fuck” are not so detached from what I’ve been saying this whole time or the meme wouldn’t make sense.

Yeah, it’s all from the same origin. The implication being that the one penetrating is “the man” and the one being penetrated is “the woman.” The other part of the implication being to fuck someone is good and powerful and dominating and being fucked is bad and immaculating and submissive.

If that sounds like I’m adding my own words and meaning to a simple phrase, think about what is actually being said when you say “you’re getting fucked by Microsoft.” What, you don’t want to get fucked? Why? Sex is supposed to be a positive thing two people can do together. Unless the one “getting fucked” doesn’t want to and now we’re not talking about fucking, we’re talking about using violent rape as an analogy for what a software company is doing to its userbase and that’s just…kind of fucked up. I shouldn’t have to explain why, right?

Anyway, no, I don’t get mad whenever I hear a phrase that stems from heteronormative ideas of sex. I don’t assume the person saying it is homophobic or an idiot, they probably just don’t know. But a friend once educated me on the subject, I thought about it, and I agree. So now I avoid using phrases like that, and when someone openly questions it like you have, cool, I’ll stop and talk about it.

It is literally the meaning behind the meme. There’s a silhouette of two men labeled “you” and “Microsoft” with the Microsoft man depicted as the top, the one doing the fucking, the one in the stereotypical position of power in the act. The message is, “Microsoft fucks you like this man fucks this other man in the ass.” I don’t have to spell this out, it’s what’s in the picture.

Associating the concepts of “tops” and “bottoms” to gay couples having sex is at least kind of ignorant if not homophobic.

Macs are used in a lot of “creative” industries and professionals tend to benefit from multiple monitors. Every editor I’ve known cuts on a Mac with at least two monitors.